Love in 2014

How many types of love are there?


Love of the environment

Love of our planet

Love of animals

Love for fellow human beings

Love for the youth

Love for the elderly

Love for our friends

Love for our extended family

Love for our family

Love for our children

Love for our Partner

and finally,

Love for yourself.


This is not necessarily in any order but I do strongly believe that you have to love yourself first and foremost or you will never know how to love the others in your life. 

It hit me the other day when I received a text from my teenage son telling me to be careful outside because the roads were slippery with snow.  This was a text of love.

Oh I knew that love comes in a variety of forms and a variety of intensity but for some reason, that text really hit home.

My almost grown up son, now driving by himself was concerned for me, his mother.   It made my heart swell up and it made me smile.

What other types of love is there in my life.  Funny enough my partner's dog comes to mind.  This little pooch is fast becoming our dog also.  Even though he comes back into the house with wet paws and a snow covered body, his liveliness along with his warmth and funny antics melts my heart every time.  Oh and affectionate too.  He will love you up until you can't stand it anymore.  Also, don't even think of letting him peek outside if there is a stranger walking on my street!  How dare they walk so close to me, his new found master that he will protect and guard with everything that he's got.  Sort of makes me smile.....  :)

I have the love of my family, my extended family, my friends.  All concerned for me at one point or another but each moving on with their own lives (as they should).

The one love that is throwing me for a loop is the love of my partner.  The love he has for me and frankly the love I feel for him.  Now don't get me wrong, I've never been in an abusive relationship nor have I ever felt 'unloved' when in a serious relationship however, this is different.

My new man (not so new as time goes by) and I have a different kind of love.  One that keeps on surprising me and even shocking me at times. 

I have never felt such a thing.  For me to be of such importance to someone else.  For me to come before anything or anyone else.  For me to be the recipient of such pure and honest love is at times overwhelming. 

I'm learning to accept it, to appreciate it and to not question it.  I'm learning that a new best friend can come with the 'in love' tag attached to it.  I'm learning to grow with it and to give it back.

I'm especially learning that to love someone like I love him makes life seem different.  What was important before, still is, however the priorities are different. 

It's different from the love you have for your child as a mother.  I differentiate my mother's  heart and my woman's heart.  The love you have for your child cannot be put into words because that child is part of who you are...the love just is..... But the love for my man is encompassing.  You remain who you are, you do not become one with your partner yet you discover that you are on the same path going towards the same direction and you want to stay there, on that path, with your partner.

You discover that the path may change, but you will change along with your partner because you are not afraid of anything new.

It's definitely a different experience and I believe that many people do not have the deep rooted joy of living with this kind of love.  The loving, secure, respectful and sane love that exists in a real relationship.

As this new year starts, I'm thinking back of Dec 31rst 2013, one year ago when I started blogging (see my other blog http://alifelongpartner.blogspot.ca/ ) .  Oh the changes that have occurred since that first entry.....  positive changes to say the least.

In 2014, I will continue to love.  My mother`s heart is full and continues to be concerned for my son (as it always will I suspect).  My women`s heart is also full and changing and getting bigger as time goes by (I also suspect that this will continue to grow with time).  More importantly though, I will continue to love myself by establishing a better routine for me.  Precisely a better exercise and health routine. 

Before my Mr Right, I was spending too much time at the gym.  Now, I don't spend enough.   I will regain my balance there.  That is a promise to the most important person in my life....... 

You know who that is right?

Happy New Year to all of my readers!  May you all have every kind of love, but especially the most important one.....


Signed yours in love (in more ways that one),

SSW :)