Knock knock......'who's there?'.....It's me, the past.....

What do you do when the past comes knocking on your door?  How do you deal with it?   I've asked myself these questions lately....

The past, and we all have one at our age, is bound to peek around the corner and show up at your doorstep at one point.  How do you deal with the past when you are trying to create a present and a future?

Not an easy question and not an easy feat.  But dealing with the past is a necessity.  Showing yourself and showing the people from your past that you are attempting to change and that you trying to regulate your present and your future is of prime importance I think.

It takes time, it sometimes takes the breaking of ties if necessary but more importantly, it takes the realization that you and you alone can control what is happening in your own life at the present time. 

The realization that people's reactions to your decisions are not your responsability is of prime importance.  In other words YOU and YOU alone are responsible for your actions and for your reactions. 

You are not responsible for other people's words, other people's reactions or other people's attempt to lure you back into your past. 

You are however responsible for putting your foot down and for controlling your own avenue. 

You are the only one able to decide if you are presently going to a safe, happy, healthy and loving future or if you want to go back to a less than healthy and chaotic past.

You need determination and you definitely need to prioritze what is important to you in your life at the present in order to gain a calm and happy future.

It is not easy to realize and to admit that some of our past friendships were not only unhealthy but were superficial.  Some of these past ties were there for the sole purpose to gain something.  Whether you were the one being used or you were the one using the other, those relationships do not belong in your present and in your future if you want a happy one......

Being able to honestly look at yourself, to have an insight on what you really truly want is the key.  It is not easy to admit to yourself, let alone to others, what you want and need for the present and for the future....

Your needs may not always match what the important people in your life want.  This is why insight, honesty, communication and compromise is important.....

Just something to think about......

Signed yours truly, in a bit of a tug of war.....

SSW :)